Pride, pain and practice

Their hair has a history.
You’re part of it.

Why Black hair carries so much meaning, told calmly and honestly, so gentle hands make sense. It starts with pride, names the hard parts and ends with what to do tonight.

Why a hair guide has a history page

For centuries, Black hair was used to rank, control and exclude people. Families answered with care, skill and pride. When you part your child’s hair slowly and stop when they say “ouch,” you’re part of that answer.

Hair was a language first

In many West and Central African societies, a hairstyle could tell you someone’s age, family, marriage, rank, ethnic group or faith. Doing hair took hours, and it was trusted, shared time, often between relatives.

The objects survive: Nok sculptures with rows of buns, Benin’s coral crown for the Queen Mother, carved headrests that kept a style intact through sleep. The bonnet on your child’s nightstand does the same job.

Forty-five of these styles, with where they come from and which ones suit kids, are in the Style Atlas.

Sources Byrd & Tharps · Hair Story: Untangling the Roots of Black Hair in America · The Met · Queen Mother pendant mask: Iyoba · Kimbell Art Museum · Nok figure

The timeline, graded

Fifty-seven moments from ancient Africa to this week. Every entry has a source and an evidence grade, so you know what’s record and what’s tradition.

How to read the grades
A
Record or strong research A law, court ruling, museum object or large study.
B
Solid scholarship Museum or historian consensus, or a good single study. B+ and B– shade it up or down.
C
Oral tradition Plausible and meaningful, but not in the written record.
D
Weak Repeated online with little or no support.
F
Not true Contradicted by the record.

RootsBefore 1500

  1. c. 6000 BCE onward

    Rock art shows patterned hair

    Saharan paintings and engravings include figures with row-like, crested hair. Reading them as braids is interpretation.

    B–Tassili n’Ajjer, AlgeriaUNESCO

  2. c. 1350 BCE

    Egypt’s court wears the “Nubian wig”

    Royal women wear tiers of tight curls modeled on Nubian hair. Most surviving wigs used non-coily hair.

    BAmarna, EgyptThe Met

  3. c. 500 BCE–500 CE

    Nok sculptors carve buns and crests

    Terracotta figures show rows of conical buns, crests and tresses, likely marks of rank.

    BCentral NigeriaKimbell Art Museum

  4. Before 1500

    Hair works like a language

    In many societies a style could tell age, family, marriage, rank, ethnicity or faith. Hairdressing was trusted, shared time.

    BWest AfricaByrd & Tharps

  5. Early 1500s

    Queen Mother Idia’s coral crown

    Benin honors its first Queen Mother with a coral-bead coiffure reserved for her rank.

    B+Benin City, NigeriaThe Met

Captivity & resistance1500–1865

  1. 1500s–1800s

    Captives’ heads are shaved

    Shaving before or during the Middle Passage stripped a visible marker of who a person was.

    BAtlantic crossingByrd & Tharps

  2. c. 1599

    Benkos Biohó leads an escape

    The maroon settlement he founds becomes San Basilio de Palenque, still a center of Afro-Colombian culture.

    BSan Basilio de Palenque, ColombiaWikipedia

  3. Oral tradition

    Braids carry messages of freedom

    Afro-Colombian braiders tell of styles that signaled escape or traced routes. Living oral history, not written record.

    CChocó, ColombiaSnopes

  4. Oral tradition

    Rice carried in her hair

    Maroon traditions say a woman brought rice hidden in her braids. African rice still grown there makes it plausible.

    B–Suriname & French GuianaCarney · Human Ecology

  5. 1700s–1800s

    Lost tools, Sunday hair days, head wraps

    Enslaved people lost combs, oils and time. Sunday often became hair day; wraps protected hair and kept style alive.

    BU.S. South & the CaribbeanByrd & Tharps

  6. 1700s–1800s

    A hair hierarchy takes root

    Lighter skin and straighter hair were often tied to privilege, planting the idea of “good hair.”

    BThe AmericasByrd & Tharps · Kerr

  7. June 2, 1786

    Louisiana orders women of color to cover their hair

    Governor Miró’s edict bans feathers and jewels in their hair and requires a head covering, the tignon.

    ANew OrleansNMAAHC Searchable Museum

  8. After 1786

    The tignon becomes a crown

    Women answer with rich fabrics tied in elaborate ways, turning a mark of inferiority into fashion.

    B+New OrleansNMAAHC Searchable Museum

The straightening century1865–1960

  1. Late 1800s–1900s

    “Good hair” and the paper-bag test

    Some churches, clubs and fraternities used informal skin and comb tests. How formal or widespread they were is uncertain.

    B–U.S. citiesKerr

  2. c. 1900

    Annie Turnbo Malone starts selling

    Her “Wonderful Hair Grower” and the Poro brand build one of the first Black hair-care businesses.

    B+St. Louis areaIEEE Spectrum

  3. c. 1904

    Sarah Breedlove sells for Poro

    The future Madam C.J. Walker works as one of Malone’s agents.

    B+St. LouisNMAAHC

  4. 1905–1906

    Madam C.J. Walker launches her brand

    She builds the “Walker system” of scalp care, pomade and pressing, sold by trained agents.

    B+DenverNMAAHC · IEEE Spectrum

  5. 1911

    Walker’s company incorporates

    Her agent network spreads across the country.

    A–IndianapolisNMAAHC

  6. 1917–1918

    Poro College opens

    Malone’s school and headquarters trains beauty culturists. Sources differ on the exact year.

    BSt. LouisIEEE Spectrum

  7. 1919

    Walker dies, a legend

    Widely called America’s first self-made female millionaire, though her wealth is hard to verify.

    B–Irvington, New YorkGuinness World Records · PBS Antiques Roadshow

  8. 1920s

    The electric hot comb spreads

    Pressing at home and in salons becomes routine.

    B+United StatesIEEE Spectrum

  9. 1920s–1950s

    Salons become community hubs

    Beauty culture is one of the few independent careers open to Black women.

    B+United StatesIEEE Spectrum

  10. Mid-1900s

    Chemical relaxers go mainstream

    Lye-based relaxers spread; scalp burns become a known risk.

    BUnited StatesByrd & Tharps

Pride & pushback1960–2009

  1. May 5, 1962

    Malcolm X asks who taught us

    In a Los Angeles speech he asks, “Who taught you to hate the texture of your hair?”

    BLos AngelesMic

  2. 1962

    “Naturally ’62” and Black Is Beautiful

    Kwame Brathwaite and AJASS stage a show celebrating natural hair and dark skin.

    BHarlem, New YorkNMAAHC

  3. Late 1960s–1970s

    The Afro becomes a statement

    Natural hair becomes a symbol of pride, liberation and unity.

    B+United StatesNMAAHC

  4. 1981

    Rogers v. American Airlines

    A federal court upholds an airline’s ban on all-braided styles for an employee.

    ANew YorkRogers v. American Airlines, 527 F. Supp. 229 (S.D.N.Y. 1981)

  5. 2000s

    The natural hair internet

    Forums and blogs spread words like “big chop” and “transitioning.”

    B–OnlineIsimeme Edeko

  6. 2009

    Good Hair hits theaters

    Chris Rock’s documentary brings relaxer and weave economics into mainstream talk.

    BUnited StatesWikipedia

Renaissance & rights2010–today

  1. 2010s

    YouTube teaches a generation

    Creators like Naptural85 and MoKnowsHair, and later Type 4 voices like Isimeme Edeko (from 2015), teach natural care at scale.

    B–OnlineIsimeme Edeko

  2. August 2012

    An Olympic champion’s hair becomes the story

    After winning gold, Gabby Douglas faces online criticism of her ponytail.

    A–LondontheGrio

  3. 2014–2017

    Army hair rules draw backlash

    A 2014 regulation is criticized for restricting Black women’s styles; locs are authorized in 2017.

    A–U.S. ArmyCutis / MDedge

  4. 2016

    Locs and a lost job offer

    An appeals court rules that pulling a job offer over locs did not violate federal law as the case was pleaded.

    AMobile, AlabamaEEOC v. Catastrophe Management Solutions, 852 F.3d 1018 (11th Cir. 2016)

  5. 2018

    Locs allowed across the services

    By year’s end every branch permits locs.

    A–U.S. militaryCutis / MDedge

  6. July 2018

    A Jamaican five-year-old is barred over her locs

    Her school says she can attend only if her locs are cut.

    AKingston, JamaicaCNN

  7. December 2018

    A wrestler’s locs are cut mat-side

    High schooler Andrew Johnson is told to cut his locs or forfeit. The video spreads nationwide.

    A–Buena, New JerseySports Illustrated

  8. 2019

    The first CROWN study

    A Dove-commissioned survey finds Black women 1.5 times more likely to be sent home from work over hair.

    B–United StatesThe CROWN Act

  9. July 3, 2019

    California passes the first CROWN Act

    State law bans discrimination based on hair texture and protective styles.

    ASacramentoWikipedia

  10. 2019

    Hair Love puts a dad at the mirror

    Matthew A. Cherry’s short about a father learning his daughter’s hair wins the Oscar in 2020.

    B+Los AngelesWikipedia

  11. September 2019

    New Jersey acts on the wrestling case

    The referee is barred for two seasons; the state issues guidance on hairstyle discrimination.

    A–New JerseySports Illustrated

  12. 2020

    Ruby Williams settles over her Afro

    Repeatedly sent home from school, she settles for £8,500 with backing from Britain’s equality watchdog.

    A–LondonCfEY

  13. July 31, 2020

    Jamaica’s Supreme Court sides with the school

    The court finds no breach of the child’s rights.

    AKingston, JamaicaCNN

  14. December 2020

    The Halo Code launches

    Young Black activists create a voluntary pledge for schools and employers to protect Afro-textured hair.

    A–LondonVoice Online

  15. January–May 2021

    Braids, ponytails and room to breathe

    The Army and Air Force expand allowed styles, citing hair-loss concerns.

    AU.S. militaryU.S. Army · Military.com

  16. 2021

    “As early as five”

    A Dove-commissioned survey: most Black girls who face hair discrimination do so by 12, some by 5.

    B–United StatesThe CROWN Act

  17. March 2022

    The House passes a federal CROWN Act

    It stalls in the Senate and never becomes law.

    AWashington, D.C.Wikipedia

  18. 2022

    UK guidance for schools

    Britain’s equality watchdog says blanket hairstyle bans are likely unlawful race discrimination.

    A–United KingdomPA via AOL

  19. October 17, 2022

    Straighteners linked to uterine cancer

    NIH researchers find frequent users about twice as likely to develop it. An association, not proof.

    A–NIH, North CarolinaNIH · White et al.

  20. January 2023

    Barbados lets natural styles show

    A national grooming policy allows locs and cornrows uncovered in schools.

    B+BarbadosBarbados Today

  21. July 6, 2023

    Trinidad & Tobago’s school hair code

    Locs, twists, plaits, Afros and cornrows are allowed in schools.

    ATrinidad & TobagoTrinidad & Tobago Ministry of Education

  22. September 2023

    Darryl George is punished over loc length

    The day after Texas’s CROWN Act takes effect, his school disciplines him for his locs.

    A–Mont Belvieu, TexasCBS Texas

  23. February 22, 2024

    A judge finds a gap in the law

    Texas’s CROWN Act doesn’t cover hair length, the judge rules.

    A–TexasCBS Texas

  24. July 2024

    Jamaica’s Court of Appeal rules for the child

    Excluding her over her locs breached her constitutional rights.

    AKingston, JamaicaJamaica Gleaner

  25. July 24, 2025

    Darryl George’s federal case ends

    A federal judge dismisses his remaining claims.

    A–HoustonABC13 Houston

  26. August–September 2025

    A one-year limit on shaving waivers

    Troops who still need one after a year face separation. Most waivers are for razor bumps, far more common in Black men.

    A–U.S. militaryMilitary.com

  27. November 25, 2025

    30 states and D.C.

    Pennsylvania signs its CROWN Act. Some states’ versions are limited, and there is still no federal law.

    B+Harrisburg, PennsylvaniaEconomic Policy Institute

  28. As of November 4, 2026

    The formaldehyde ban is still a proposal

    First promised for 2024, it remains unpublished. The FDA’s agenda now targets November 2026.

    A–FDA, MarylandCNN · ChemLinked

What was taken, and what was kept

Captives were commonly shaved before or during the Middle Passage. In slavery, people lost their combs, oils and time. Sunday often became hair day, and head wraps protected hair while keeping style alive.

In 1786, the governor of Spanish Louisiana ordered free women of color to stop wearing feathers and jewels in their hair and to cover it. The point was to mark them as lower. They answered with rich fabrics tied in elaborate ways, and the wrap became a crown.

Slavery also ranked people by skin and hair. Lighter skin and straighter hair were often tied to privilege, and that’s where “good hair” comes from.

Sources Byrd & Tharps · Hair Story: Untangling the Roots of Black Hair in America · NMAAHC Searchable Museum · The Tignon Laws

Stories worth telling honestly

Some favorite stories are documented. Some are oral tradition, which is its own kind of inheritance. A few just aren’t true. Here’s which is which.

“Enslaved people braided escape maps into cornrows.”

COral tradition

The story comes from Afro-Colombian braiders, tied to the maroon town of San Basilio de Palenque. No written record from the time backs it, and there’s no evidence for a U.S. version. Tell it as what it is: a living story communities chose to keep.

Snopes · Wikipedia

“Women hid rice seeds in their braids.”

B–A recorded tradition

Maroon communities in Suriname and French Guiana have told this for generations, and African rice still grown there makes it plausible. It isn’t documented as a literal Middle Passage event.

Carney · Human Ecology

“Louisiana made Black women cover their hair.”

ADocumented

Governor Miró’s 1786 edict did require it. “Tignon Law” is a later nickname, and how strictly it was enforced is unclear. What women did with it, turning the wrap into fashion, is well supported.

NMAAHC Searchable Museum

“Madam C.J. Walker invented the hot comb.”

FNot true

Heated combs existed before her. She popularized a full system of scalp care, pomade and pressing, and built a sales force to teach it.

NMAAHC · IEEE Spectrum

“Annie Malone patented the hot comb.”

DDisputed

Repeated often, but no patent is commonly cited. Malone’s real legacy, Poro and Poro College, needs no myth.

IEEE Spectrum

“Walker was America’s first self-made female millionaire.”

B–Widely said, hard to prove

Guinness lists her, but notes her wealth is hard to pin down and that she denied being a millionaire. Others may have been earlier.

Guinness World Records · PBS Antiques Roadshow

“Relaxers cause cancer.”

B+Linked, not proven

Large NIH studies link frequent straightener use to higher rates of uterine, breast and ovarian cancer. That’s an association. The absolute risk stays low, and it’s still a good reason to keep relaxers away from kids.

NIH · NIEHS

“The FDA banned formaldehyde straighteners.”

FNot yet

As of November 4, 2026, the ban is still an unpublished proposal. The FDA’s agenda targets November 2026.

CNN · ChemLinked

“Braids are bad for kids’ hair.”

A–Tightness is the problem

Loose, chunky braids worn for a limited time are fine. Tight, heavy or long-worn styles are what cause hair loss at the edges.

AAD

“The CROWN Act is federal law.”

FNot yet

It passed the U.S. House in 2022 and has been reintroduced since, but no federal version has passed both chambers.

Wikipedia · Congress.gov

“18% of African American girls have traction alopecia.”

DMisattributed

The number traces to a 2007 study of South African schoolchildren, which found it in 17.1% of girls, rising with age. Quote it as South African data, or not at all.

Khumalo et al.

“Good hair” and the long shadow

After slavery, “good hair” and “bad hair” stayed in everyday talk. Some churches, clubs and fraternities used informal skin and comb tests to decide who belonged. Memoirs and scholarship document them, though how formal or common they were is uncertain.

It usually shows up quietly, inside loving families. Creator Isimeme Edeko grew up in braids, twists and puffs at home, but her hair was straightened for picture day. Looking back with her mother, she realized the message had passed down without either of them meaning it: natural at home, straight for the world.

When a grandparent says “tame it,” they often learned that controlled hair kept a child safer in public. You can honor the care and change the words: “We’re keeping it healthy. She likes it big.”

Sources Kerr · The Paper Bag Principle: Class, Colorism, and Rumor · Isimeme Edeko · Why Black Childhood Hair Trauma Runs So Deep (Part 1)

Who taught you to hate the texture of your hair?

Malcolm XSpeech in Los Angeles, May 5, 1962

The straightening century

Around 1900, Annie Turnbo Malone built Poro, and one of her agents, Sarah Breedlove, became Madam C.J. Walker. Their businesses trained thousands of women as agents and stylists. Beauty culture was one of the few careers that let Black women work for themselves, and salons became community hubs.

Walker didn’t invent the hot comb; heated combs came first. She’s widely called America’s first self-made female millionaire, though even Guinness says her fortune is hard to pin down.

Pressing, and later relaxers, were often a strategy for school, work and safety in a world that punished natural hair. There are no villains here. The grandmother at the stove with a pressing comb was protecting someone. What’s changed is how much we now know about burns, breakage and chemicals.

Sources IEEE Spectrum · How the electric hot comb became an entrepreneurial tool · NMAAHC · Madam C.J. Walker’s “Wonderful Hair Grower” · Guinness World Records · First self-made millionairess

What the science says now

Graded the same way as the timeline. None of this is a diagnosis; anything that worries you is a call to the pediatrician or a dermatologist.

FindingHow strongWhat it means for your child
Tight or heavy styles cause traction alopecia: hair loss that starts at the edges. Caught early it can recover; years of pulling can make it permanent.A– · consistent clinical evidenceA style should never hurt. Watch the hairline for bumps, broken hairs or “tenting,” and loosen or take the style out.
The AAD advises braids for no longer than 6–8 weeks, thicker braids and locs, and looser hair at the hairline. Kids get traction alopecia too.B+ · expert guidancePlan rest weeks between braided styles. Choose chunky parts for little ones.
Pain, stinging, crusts or tenting mean change the style right away (AAD).B+ · expert guidanceIf a braid throbs or they can’t sleep, take it out that day.
Frequent straightener use (more than four times a year) is linked to about twice the uterine cancer risk: 4.05% vs 1.64% by age 70, among 33,497 women followed almost 11 years.B+ · large study, association onlyAnother reason this guide keeps relaxers away from children. Uterine cancer is still relatively rare.
Straighteners are also linked to breast and ovarian cancer in the same NIH study group.B · associationTeen years are often when use starts. Give teens the facts before they choose.
The FDA’s proposed ban on formaldehyde in heated smoothing and straightening products is not published as of November 4, 2026; its agenda targets November 2026.Status, checked todayBeing on a shelf isn’t proof of safety. Skip keratin and “Brazilian” smoothing treatments for kids and teens.
CCCA is scarring hair loss at the crown, most studied in Black women. Its cause isn’t fully understood: a gene (PADI3) may play a role; hairstyles may, but that’s unproven; most relaxer users never get it.B · dermatology guidanceCrown thinning, itching or tenderness in a teen needs a dermatologist early, because scarring is permanent.
Electric styling tools are a common cause of burns in children (AAP).A– · pediatric dataHot tools stay unplugged and out of reach. No flat irons on young kids.
A 2007 study found traction alopecia in 17.1% of South African schoolgirls, rising with age.B · one studyIt’s often misquoted as U.S. data. The lesson holds anywhere: tension adds up over years.
Why, and the fine print

Dr. Alexandra White, the NIH study’s lead author, called the doubled risk “concerning,” and in the same breath said it’s important to “put this information into context – uterine cancer is a relatively rare type of cancer.” Both halves matter.

Sources AAD · Hairstyles that pull can lead to hair loss · Traction alopecia: clinical and cultural patterns (review) · NIH · Hair straightening chemicals associated with higher uterine cancer risk · White et al. · Straighteners and incident uterine cancer (JNCI) · NIEHS · Permanent hair dye and straighteners may increase breast cancer risk · AAD · Central centrifugal cicatricial alopecia: causes · AAP · Electric hair styling products a common cause of burn injuries in children · Khumalo et al. · Hairdressing and traction alopecia in South African schoolchildren (Br J Dermatol) · ChemLinked · FDA targets November 2026 for formaldehyde ban proposal

This doubling rate is concerning. However, it is important to put this information into context.

Dr. Alexandra WhiteNIEHS lead author, on the NIH Sister Study (2022)

From the Afro to YouTube

In 1962, photographer Kwame Brathwaite and his collective staged “Naturally ’62,” helping popularize “Black Is Beautiful.” By the late 1960s, the Afro was a statement of pride and unity.

It cost people something. In the first episode of her Thairapy series, Isimeme Edeko’s mother remembers winning “best Afro” in her yearbook, the pride of her Black Student Union, and people throwing beer cans when she walked through a white neighborhood. “It was bigger than hair,” she says.

Relaxers dominated the decades after. Then forums, blogs and, by the 2010s, YouTube taught a generation to care for natural hair. The first famous faces often had looser curls; Type 4 creators like Naptural85, MoKnowsHair and Edeko helped kids with tighter coils see themselves. Today more men and boys are joining in, too.

Sources NMAAHC · Black is Beautiful: the emergence of Black culture and identity in the 60s and 70s · Wikipedia · Good Hair (2009 documentary) · Isimeme Edeko · 70s Racism, Alopecia & A Secret Big Chop (Thairapy Ep. 1) · Isimeme Edeko · The Black Hair Triumph We All Deserve (Part 3)

Know your rights: the CROWN Act

As of November 4, 2026, there is no federal CROWN Act. The Economic Policy Institute counts 30 states plus Washington, D.C., with some versions narrower than others. Other trackers count fewer, so check your state’s own law.

YearStates
2019California (first), New Jersey, New York
2020Colorado, Maryland, Virginia, Washington
2021Connecticut, Delaware, Nebraska, Nevada, New Mexico, Oregon
2022Alaska, Illinois, Louisiana, Maine, Massachusetts, Tennessee
2023Arkansas, Michigan, Minnesota, Texas · Arizona (executive order)
2024New Hampshire, Vermont · Kentucky (executive order, public employment only)
2025Pennsylvania, Rhode Island · Missouri (schools only)
AlsoWashington, D.C.
No statewide lawAlabama, Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Idaho, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Mississippi, Montana, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oklahoma, South Carolina, South Dakota, Utah, West Virginia, Wisconsin, Wyoming. Some cities have their own rules.
Why, and the fine print

Texas shows why the details matter. Its CROWN Act took effect September 1, 2023. Darryl George was disciplined over his locs the next school day, and a judge later ruled the law covered hairstyle but not hair length.

The federal bill passed the House in March 2022, died in the Senate and was reintroduced in February 2025 without a vote.

Sources Economic Policy Institute · Thirty states have passed a version of the CROWN Act · Wikipedia · CROWN Act (California, SB 188) · Wikipedia · CROWN Act of 2022 · Congress.gov · S.751, CROWN Act of 2025

The stories behind the laws

1981 · Braids at work

In Rogers v. American Airlines, a federal court upheld an airline’s ban on all-braided styles. For decades it was cited to say hairstyle wasn’t protected.

2016 · Locs and a job offer

An appeals court let a company pull a job offer over locs. Cases like this are why the CROWN Act names texture and protective styles.

2018 · Cut it or forfeit

Andrew Johnson, a New Jersey high school wrestler, had his locs cut mat-side to compete. The referee was later barred for two seasons.

2018–2024 · A five-year-old in Jamaica

A school barred a girl, known in court as ZV, unless she cut her locs. She lost in 2020 and won in 2024, when the Court of Appeal said her constitutional rights were breached.

2023–2025 · The length loophole

Darryl George, a Texas student, was punished for his locs’ length. A judge said the state’s CROWN Act didn’t cover length, and his federal case was dismissed in 2025.

Sources Rogers v. American Airlines, 527 F. Supp. 229 (S.D.N.Y. 1981) · EEOC v. Catastrophe Management Solutions, 852 F.3d 1018 (11th Cir. 2016) · Sports Illustrated · Referee who forced wrestler to cut dreadlocks banned · Jamaica Gleaner · Appeal court rules Kensington Primary locs ban breached constitutional rights · CBS Texas · Judge rules school did not violate CROWN Act over Darryl George’s locs · ABC13 Houston · Federal judge dismisses Darryl George’s lawsuit

Beyond the U.S.

WhereWhat happenedStatus
United KingdomRace discrimination law covers hair, though hair isn’t named. Ruby Williams settled for £8,500 in 2020. Equality guidance (2022) calls blanket style bans likely unlawful.The Halo Code (2020) is a voluntary pledge for schools and employers.
JamaicaA school barred a five-year-old over her locs (2018). The Supreme Court sided with the school (2020).The Court of Appeal ruled for the child in 2024.
Trinidad & TobagoAfter students were kept off a graduation stage over their hair, the Ministry of Education acted.National School Hair Code (2023) allows locs, twists, plaits, Afros and cornrows.
BarbadosCourt disputes over natural hair in schools.National grooming policy (2023) allows locs and cornrows uncovered.

Sources CfEY · Hair is not just hair: what can be done about hair discrimination · PA via AOL · EHRC guidance on hair discrimination in schools · Voice Online · The Halo Code, the UK’s first Black hair code · CNN · Jamaica’s Supreme Court rules for school in dreadlocks case · Jamaica Gleaner · Appeal court rules Kensington Primary locs ban breached constitutional rights · Trinidad & Tobago Ministry of Education · National School Hair Code · Barbados Today · Finally, the hair victory many advocated for

The military

BranchWhat changed
ArmyA 2014 rule drew criticism for restricting Black women’s styles. Locs allowed in 2017; braids, ponytails and no minimum length in 2021, with dermatologist input.
NavyLocs allowed in 2018; ponytails and a wider range of men’s styles later added.
Air Force & Space ForceMore hair bulk allowed in 2018; longer braids, ponytails and bangs in 2021.
Marine CorpsLocs allowed by the end of 2018.
All services (2025)Shaving waivers now need a treatment plan, and troops still needing one after a year face separation. Most waivers are for razor bumps, which are far more common in Black men. Check current rules before you rely on this.

Sources Cutis / MDedge · Buns, braids and ponytails: a new era of military hair standards · U.S. Army · New grooming and appearance standards · Military.com · Air Force to allow longer braids and ponytails · Military.com · Pentagon says troops can only be exempt from shaving for a year

How it lands on a child

A 2021 Dove-commissioned survey of 1,000 girls found that among Black girls who faced hair discrimination, most did by age 12, and their mothers said it began as early as 5. Nine in ten Black girls said their hair is beautiful, yet most in majority-white schools sometimes wished it were straight. It’s advocacy research, so treat it as a signal, not a diagnosis.

The stories are familiar. Isimeme Edeko remembers burns on her ears from the hot comb, a classmate mocking her twists, and changing her hair as a teen to feel like enough. Gabby Douglas won Olympic gold in 2012 and spent the next week answering questions about her ponytail.

Boys carry it too: a wrestler’s locs cut mat-side, a student suspended over length, grooming rules in the military.

None of this means your child will be hurt by their hair. It means their hair may get noticed, and they’ll look to you for how to feel about it.

Sources The CROWN Act · CROWN research studies (Dove) · theGrio · Gabby Douglas responds to hair comments · Isimeme Edeko · Why Black Childhood Hair Trauma Runs So Deep (Part 1) · Isimeme Edeko · How Childhood Hair Trauma Spiraled Into Teenage Insecurities (Part 2)

I just made history, and people are focused on my hair?

Gabby DouglasAfter winning Olympic gold, 2012

Dads and hair

In a lot of homes, hair was a mother’s or grandmother’s job. That’s a habit, not a rule.

Matthew A. Cherry’s Hair Love (2019), about a dad learning his daughter’s hair from online videos, won the Oscar for Best Animated Short. Its popularity says how many families recognized themselves.

Research on dads and hair specifically is thin; we didn’t find a study that measures it. Federal survey data show most dads who live with their kids do daily care like bathing and dressing, and father involvement is linked with better outcomes for children.

Here’s why it matters: home is where a child first learns whether their hair is welcome. Every patient session tells them it is. Let them see you learn, too. Practice is part of the story.

Sources Wikipedia · Hair Love (2019 short film) · CDC/NCHS · Fathers’ involvement with their children (2006–2010)

What to share, and when

Little ones · about 3–8

Share: “People with hair like yours have done beautiful styles for thousands of years.” “Some grown-ups made unfair rules about hair, and families worked hard to change them.” Read or watch Hair Love together. Leave out graphic details of slavery, burns or cancer.

Teens · about 12–18

Share the 1786 edict, the “good hair” history, the CROWN Act and Darryl George’s case, and the relaxer research with its limits. Tell them their rights at school. Treat heat, relaxers and extensions as their informed choice later, not a rule or a test.

Boys, too

Locs, twists, Afros and fades carry the same history, and the wrestling and Texas cases are boys’ stories. Talk about barbers, beards and razor bumps as part of the same care.

Words to swap

Instead ofTry
“Nappy” or “bad hair”“Your coils are strong.”
“Good hair” (about anyone)Name what you love: “Look how your curls spring back.”
“Let’s tame this” or “fix it”“Let’s take care of it.”
“You’re so tender-headed”“Tell me if it pulls. I’ll go slower.”
“Sit still or else”“Two more sections, then a break.”
“Your sister’s hair is easier”“Your hair has its own way. I’m learning it.”
“Wild” or “unmanageable”“Big and beautiful.”

Pride in practice, tonight

  1. Ask before you start

    “Ready? Want music or a story?” Starting with a choice tells them it’s their head.

  2. Make “too tight?” a standing question

    Ask at every section. Stop means stop, every time, no sighing.

  3. Say one true, kind thing about their hair

    Not “good hair.” Something specific: how it springs back, how soft it is after conditioner.

  4. Let them choose

    The style, the scrunchie, the order of sections. Small choices add up to ownership.

  5. Tell one story while you work

    A grandparent’s Afro, a style from the Atlas, your own barbershop memories. Hair time is history time.

  6. Build in rest weeks

    Loosen the edges, rotate styles and give the hairline time off between braided styles.

Sources AAD · Hairstyles that pull can lead to hair loss

Please don’t ever look down on your crown.

Isimeme EdekoNatural hair educator, 2024